Hello Everyone,
It's quite a long time since I have written anything but, recently I was going through such circumstances which made me think.
Well, I won't describe the situation here but would share my thought process about it.
Have you ever come across a situation when people close to you are totally against your beliefs, actions, opinions and choices? They can't deal with the fact that you went differently.
As a girl, I have faced this a hundred times. According to society, no matter what degree a girl holds, she is still not capable enough to make her own decisions. And this is not even dramatic but normal.
You take one step which is unsynchronized with the society they will do whatever they can to resist you.
What I've been going through is they yell and make up bizarre statements to convince you to step back. If it fails, they play the emotional card.
It is difficult to deny or ignore the situation when close loved ones are involved, but you must survive. You have to come up with a coping mechanism to deal with it.
You know, what you are doing is essential for you. It will contribute to your growth. You are left with no choice, either you take a step back that you do not want or simply ignore it all and go forward. A coping mechanism will not eliminate this situation but will allow you to rhetorically present your point and survive. It is effective when you are thinking more with your head than your heart.
This mechanism varies from situation to situation and person to person as we all have a different mindset. I distance myself from people who are always discouraging me because no matter how much I try they will never get happy and satisfied. My life is too short to waste on impressing others.
If they don't understand, leave it. It might hurt them for a while but if you compromise you will spend every moment wishing you would have done it OR taken that step OR fought for your independence OR started that business OR gotten that job out of city OR just focused on career and the list goes on and on...
I don't know how many of you can relate but if you do, trust me there is a way to get through this. Because if you won't prepare a mechanism then you will die with guilt. Nothing is worse than this.
Okay!!
That's it...
Do let me know in the comments your views.
Stay safe! Stay healthy!
I hope you all are doing well and taking precautions. I know this is a difficult time but we shall survive this too.
Like 2020, this too shall pass...
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